Bible Discussion Thread

I feel like no one wants me around. I feel like I don't belong here or anywhere. It makes me feel very sad and alone and like I don't want to be here.

Dear Flossy,

People have been praying for you. I remember your posts from before and have a few questions. Out of all the loving support you received before and suggestions given, have you taken action on those suggestions that people took the time to lovingly share with you?

Secondly, have you questioned where your current thoughts/beliefs about yourself come from? Not all thoughts we have about ourselves are true and there are specific actions you can take immediately to resolve any false beliefs and assumptions about yourself. I believe these were shared before and I wonder what steps have you taken to progress in that?

For instance 'I don't belong here'- is that belief from you, God or satan? Is this just a temporary feeling or is this something you believe is actually true? What is the evidence for this belief? Can you prove this is true like in a court of law or to God? Is it always true or just sometimes? Is it true for others? Is it true for me? Do you think I don't belong either? Why? How can you prove that? What is the exact criteria for 'belonging' or not, and how can anyone know if it applies to them or not? What if this thought isn't true? What if this thought is a false assumption? What if you do belong and just don't realize it for some unknown reason? What if this thought came from a bad source, like an enemy lying to you? What positive truth can you replace it with? Have you prayed to God to ask Him if any of this is true or false? Have you been reading the Bible to fill your mind with God's truth? Link

This takes an active effort to rebuke falsehoods and negative thoughts that come from the enemy. Please reply and let me know what you're actively doing to fight against this? How do you know this isn't your gift of compassion and empathy God gave you in order to help others? What have you done to help others and help others feel welcome and that they belong?

I have made my promise to God clear. I have said repeatedly, release some of this sorrow and I will help other people who are struggling. You can't help someone drowning if you are drowning also. I know what its like when you feel like no one has your back and you never knew trust to begin with. I have been there. I can only help people once I'm well enough to. You can't be sick and help another sick person. That is what got me pulled into addiction to begin with. I had depression already, I was trying to help this person who was addicted, we ended up in a relationship. I wanted to make him happy, he needed me to be more "social" and eventually, he wore me down. I started using. I knew it was bad but I wasn't close, couldn't feel God at the time. Satan worked on me 4 months. 4 months and I finally caved. I thought well no one cares, this isn't getting easier, I will do it just enough to get through this time. I had an eating disorder 10+ years before I got into this addiction and part of it was running. I had to run a certain amount of time a day to stay a certain type of way so that someone would love me. I was working full time then and trying to run and trying to support my now- boyfriend's drug habit and I was thinking I'm spending so much time driving around and money I might as well be doing it. So I started using and realized the eating thing took care of itself. I think I would have kept on doing it if it didn't bother me we were lying to everyone all the time. But it did bother me. So that is why I can't be helping people right now. When I develop some better coping mechanisms and have a more solid feeling of trust in who God is and who I am, yes. I will help people. But, I cannot right now. I'm dealing with my own mess right now and going through all the lies and trauma in my past and its a lot to deal with sober considering I spent my life running from pain. I just get overwhelmed at times and that is why I go to these sites for prayer.

Flossy Ann, Life is hard....take it one day (or even one hour) at a time. You are correct in wanting believers to pray for you. Over 20 years ago I woke up one day with a terrible hangover and worse...a feeling that I may have hurt someone (verbally) with my drunken behavior. When I asked this person he said "What are you talking about? You were hilarious last night.", but there was a feeling of shame that I couldn't stand.

While I wasn't an alcoholic in the usual sense, I had been out carousing for 20 straight nights. And this was a pattern for about 15 years. And often I had feelings of worthlessness so I did abuse alcohol and this constant carousing to "feel good"..but it was a fakeout, a counterfeit!

That morning, before I lifted my aching head from the pillow, I called out to God, whom I did not know personally, and gave him control of my life and just said " I don't want to feel like this anymore!!" No, it wasn't instantaneous but before I knew it I had lost my desire for this lifestyle and began getting to know my savior. I praise God that he delivered me from that life. And more importantly...to know my savior personally and to know that I will live in His kingdom with Him eternally!!! Unspeakable joy! Stay in the Word and keep praying!!!

Dear Flossy, thanks for what you shared. You belong here.

>You can't help someone drowning if you are drowning also.

>You can't be sick and help another sick person.

Have you ever challenged these thoughts you wrote? Where does this belief come from? Everyone is a work of progress. We're all imperfect. We all are on a journey. We all can grow and CAN change if we try. We can learn to love ourselves more, to give ourselves a break and to give others a break. We can show compassion to anyone. It doesn't take any special qualifications to help others. It doesn't even require arms, legs, the ability to speak. For example, most have the ability to smile and show appreciation to another. To pay a compliment. To show you care. Have you seen the YouTube video of the man with no arms, legs who became a motivational speaker?

I know the quoted statements above are not true, because my mentor suffered from depression and suicidal thoughts throughout his life. Thank God he did not believe what you said, because he helped save my life. And not just me, he's been an inspiration to so many people- more than he even realizes. But yes, he has a thorn in his flesh 2 Corinthians 12:6-7 just like Paul from the Bible did. Have you ever noticed that God has a special liking for disadvantaged people? Moses had a speaking impediment and yet God asked him to be the leader of possibly over a million Israelites. Etc. The reality is even the people you can't see flaws on, have big flaws they are aware of. We do have a choice of what we do with our gifts and abilities though.

I would challenge you to start using your gifts to help others. You will in turn feel great about doing it. It may be a challenge during this temporary pandemic, but there are other ways to show acts of kindness to others and do things to ease someone else's burden. Have you considered praying for some of the many needs on this website who share their prayer requests?

God is a great designer and he loves you even if you don't know it yet. You're here for a reason.

The earliest memory of rejection I recall was when I was 10. I came to my parents for comfort. I was sad and didn't know why. I have had clinical depression. 20+ years barely responds to anything. I was afraid. They told me stop acting spoiled and punished me. I realized I had to deal with it on my own so I started cutting myself. They noticed it and got annoyed, (because I made them look bad.) I "ruined" Christmas that year. Don't come from that angle if you haven't been raised that way. I never, learned to trust. I never learned to. It must have been nice to be loved for who you are. To accept God's love so easily. I STRUGGLE, STRUGGLE to accept God's love into my heart because I had to defend myself when I was younger and had to build up a wall to keep myself safe. My father was an alcoholic and unpredictable and would lash out at times. My mother was a narcissist. I had to compete with my brother for love. We were loved based on how well we performed, in school, in public, what else did we do to make them look good. You couldn't be flawed it was unacceptable. You had to hide your problems. I am in recovery for addiction. So yes, I am working on things. I didn't even realize how many lies were told to me. I was told over and over you can't trust anyone. I was raised catholic. My father moved here from New Mexico because he was ashamed of his family history and thought he could run away from it. As soon as I started showing symptoms of mental illness from his side of the family he was trying to run away from, I was blamed for it. My father said I reminded of him of his mother and he hates her. I live with family in Minnesota. Hurt people hurt people. Both my parents were dysfunctional and should have never had children. My mother's mother was dying when she was pregnant with me. I was delivered via emergency c section. You don't know my history. I care about people. I could care a lot more if I didn't have all this emotional baggage. Ignore me if I offend you.