In my case it was the reverse but I realize many characteristics are the same; and of course if one spouse cheats it is more likely the other will at some point. From the get go here I must say this is a painful subject but needs in my viewpoint to be addressed as no doubt many here have either dealt with it or may be in an ongoing plight of this magnitude. I have discussed this from a personal experience as I already pointed out; and that was in the doctrines specifically regarding scriptures on the subject of divorce and heavily studying the concept of remarriage. How things start and evolve really is not a pleasant thing for me to consider but I would be amiss not getting into this.
My first mistake was not availing myself of premarital counseling available at the church I was attending at the time the 2 or so months between my engagement and when we were married. That also corresponded with compromising to some extent living in the same home for a time with her parents who attended my wedding that was basically an elopement. I should have considered the value of my parents perspective in the rush to marry but overall I am focusing on what directly affected the relationship with later repercussions. There is so much more I could say but anyway; before I knew it I was married and shortly thereafter moved across the state where she would begin a job in a State Hospital as a Dietician.
Her disingenuity as to maintaining the covenant she made as a church member was something I should have paid attention to; however I didn't help matters any because I was more concerned about angrily debating eschatology with her church friends than seeking His will for me. This would remove my own ability to weigh in on what could have been further good advice on remaining where I was at the time and being the head of the household; rather than moving; depending on her to provide and later losing church membership.
In my case it was the reverse but I realize many characteristics are the same; and of course if one spouse cheats it is more likely the other will at some point. From the get go here I must say this is a painful subject but needs in my viewpoint to be addressed as no doubt many here have either dealt with it or may be in an ongoing plight of this magnitude. I have discussed this from a personal experience as I already pointed out; and that was in the doctrines specifically regarding scriptures on the subject of divorce and heavily studying the concept of remarriage. How things start and evolve really is not a pleasant thing for me to consider but I would be amiss not getting into this.
My first mistake was not availing myself of premarital counseling available at the church I was attending at the time the 2 or so months between my engagement and when we were married. That also corresponded with compromising to some extent living in the same home for a time with her parents who attended my wedding that was basically an elopement. I should have considered the value of my parents perspective in the rush to marry but overall I am focusing on what directly affected the relationship with later repercussions. There is so much more I could say but anyway; before I knew it I was married and shortly thereafter moved across the state where she would begin a job in a State Hospital as a Dietician.
Her disingenuity as to maintaining the covenant she made as a church member was something I should have paid attention to; however I didn't help matters any because I was more concerned about angrily debating eschatology with her church friends than seeking His will for me. This would remove my own ability to weigh in on what could have been further good advice on remaining where I was at the time and being the head of the household; rather than moving; depending on her to provide and later losing church membership.
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