Bible Discussion Thread

I have a few questions. I have read the bible about disables. All I can find in there is about adultry. So my question is when is divorce okay? But if god wants you to work it out he will let you right? I love my husband so much. Whenever I say I do my best I really do my best. He says he only gets angry around me.What do I do? I could really use some feedback. As far as I know there has not been any adultery. And I know there's has not been adultery from me.

Hi Bobbie Ann

I concur with Brother Chris.

Divorce is not in the plan of God.

Our joining together in marriage is to model the relationship between Christ and his Church.

I believe this is emphasized in Ephesians 5:25-32,

"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

THIS IS A GREAT MYSTERY: BUT I SPEAK CONCERNING CHRIST AND THE CHURCH.

I believe marriage is to communicate to us Christ commitment and relationship to the Church.

I believe the man in this relationship must be led and influenced daily by God's Spirit to walk accordingly in this union to lead as well as the woman to follow.

This is a work of God!

I suggest praying often for your husband to lead with the passion and unconditional love that is expected of God.

God bless.

Thank you

Hi Bobbie Ann. I'm so sorry to read of your situation at home and that you have brought up the subject of divorce. Divorce from one's life partner is never okay; you can read what Jesus said to the Pharisees who came to Him attempting to trap Him in this matter, Matthew 19:3-9. And when this also came up in the Church, the Apostle Paul wrote about personal relationships, particularly on divorce, in 1 Corinthians 7:5,10-15.

So we learn that divorce was not in God's Design to live a fulfilled, God-honoring, loving, child-raising environment. Moses of old had to make an exception to this because of the hardness of hearts of those concerned (i.e. their importunity and the likely unrest and problems that would arise because of it). But Jesus reminded them that this was never in God's Plan. And Paul then writes that if a marriage breakdown is inevitable, let both parties separate, give themselves over to prayer, fasting, & earnestly and honestly consider the path they want to take - and then reconnect again. But, if divorce is the only solution to an otherwise irreconcilable situation, then they should divorce but they should remain unmarried, at least while the other is still alive ( 1 Corinthians 7:39). But if both parties are truly wanting their marriage to work out, then I believe that the Lord will intervene in a special way to give a tender loving heart to both and a determined effort to deal with the problems, reconcile, and keep their marriage together in much prayer as one.

You wrote that you "love your husband so much" but he gets angry; probably over the slightest thing. You might know the triggers for this to happen & can't share it here. Can you talk to him about it when he settles down, asking him what you have done that angers him? Can you do something differently, or not do it while he is around? Or, maybe he just brings his anger home and takes it out on you? Please don't think of divorce just yet - be open with each other & talk things through.

Thank you for your feedback back. I don't want a divorce. Im going to give this time.