I'm 67 my husband died last year. We have 2 sons in the late 30s early 40s. The song in his early 40s doesn't want me and his wife to have a relationship and he won't explain why. I have felt abandoned by both of my son. I raised them in the Lord and the older son does repeat biblical scripture the younger son ignores it. I really have no other family and I don't know what to do because I feel so hurt. I am not feeling sorry for myself I'm just trying to understand where my life fits in and who it matters to. Where do I go from here what do I do. I want family I want to enjoy people and I want people to enjoy me. I'm in a Bible study I've been in for 16 years. We do it weekly. I'm in church. I have some great Christian friends. But I don't feel like I belong anywhere. My house needs sold desperately so that I don't go into more debt. Please pray for me I've waited for the Lord to talk to me and tell me what to do but I'm getting nothing. I feel abandoned all the way around and sometimes I don't know if God sees me. I know he's there I know he takes care of the orphan in the widow and he has sustained my broken heart over the loss of my husband of 43 years. But now I do feel rejected and abandoned. What do I do I have talked to pastors everybody gives me scripture verses but nobody's there for me nobody's there to talk to. I spent thanksgiving alone. I feel like I don't matter anymore and my sons do not need me and that's fine if they don't need me but I feel discard able by them. I'm not a necessary person in their lives. I have no one. Please pray for me, Please. Thank you very much. Maybe God will answer your prayers and he will sell my house get me out of debt and change my son's perspective on their mother. I was not a bad mother at all I raised them in the Lord took care of them every moment they needed help ran interference with their school issues and I always had them in the doctor if they even coughed. I am not needed anymore 5 by them even casually.
What can I say? It is a big trial that you are going through. We are human, when we are going through tough situations we are wondering if God sees us, If He is still having interest in us. Like John the Baptist in the jail wondering if Jesus was the Messiah. It was John's time to be tried. But Jesus didn't let him down. He had a plan for him. Not to free him but To take him with Him shortly. We don't know the plan God has for every single one of us. But we have to put our trust in Him.
The scriptures say that nobody untried will enter the kingdom of God. Maybe this is the time for you to be tried by God. Maybe God uses the events you are going through now to mature you. Israel, after walking out of Egypt towards the land of promise, walked throught the wilderness. Along the way they learned to trust God for their needs in every single day of their course. God always provided for them. Sometimes they were left hungry or thirsty for few days but they always received at the end what they needed. They had to learn that "Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God." You have to trust God even if you don't see Him in your life. Rely on Him, He will not let you down. Stephen was not seeing Jesus when he was stonned by the Jews. But Jesus was standing next to God's throne watching him. He was not sitting down but standing. Standing because He was participating in His child trial, He was not apathetic. Jesus sees you. Rely on Him. He will lead you where He wants to. He has a plan for you. Stay next to Him and hold His hand. In a time of trial we must come closer to God. God will use His own way to support you.
Rely on God's love. God loves you, He tasted a death on a cross for you. Will He abandon you now? No, never. You are precious to God. You are necessary to God. He needs you. Your life will be a testimony of your faith which God will use to save people, including your sons. I will pray for you. GBU.
Dear Dee: I can relate; as my posting the other day stated of being alone on Thanksgiving for the first time myself.
As for the house; with my mom passed there is a brochure at least every other day along with the increasing online ads "buy home as is"; no doubt there are some reputable establishements where that can be expedited. Also in your situation there is something called a "reverse mortgage" if your home is paid off (Tom Selleck has a promo on that as you may have seen last year).
I would encourage you to look around with silver at 55 dollars an ounce; gold well above 4000 for any old coins or jewelry around.
Even copper is at all time highs.
My friend who used to be in the military but is physically too unhealthy to work anymore also is fairly estranged by family members; who aren't offering any help in his bankruptcy state that he just began to get legal counsel for. Because of this it was nice to help him out with a meal and shopping which I do fairly routinely on his behalf. Make sure to check out places as he does that have food pantries; as often only one is limited. Volunteer opportunities may be there as well.
Not sure where your kids are spiritually; as with my friend I suspect if they are professing believers they aren't living out their faith. Right now they are adults and I suspect if they are His children the Lord will have to chastise them for not concerning themselves about your needs and they need to check verses about those who don't take care of their own and scriptural warnings.
Since you are involved with church I suppose you could inquire about help with any benevolence funds; if you haven't already.
Not sure if another woman who is in your situation may have housing available or rental property that is decent. Finally of course you can rent your property to someone else usually (at least in my township); there is a form to be filled out for a nominal fee to allow you to rent.
What can I say? It is a big trial that you are going through. We are human, when we are going through tough situations we are wondering if God sees us, If He is still having interest in us. Like John the Baptist in the jail wondering if Jesus was the Messiah. It was John's time to be tried. But Jesus didn't let him down. He had a plan for him. Not to free him but To take him with Him shortly. We don't know the plan God has for every single one of us. But we have to put our trust in Him.
The scriptures say that nobody untried will enter the kingdom of God. Maybe this is the time for you to be tried by God. Maybe God uses the events you are going through now to mature you. Israel, after walking out of Egypt towards the land of promise, walked throught the wilderness. Along the way they learned to trust God for their needs in every single day of their course. God always provided for them. Sometimes they were left hungry or thirsty for few days but they always received at the end what they needed. They had to learn that "Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God." You have to trust God even if you don't see Him in your life. Rely on Him, He will not let you down. Stephen was not seeing Jesus when he was stonned by the Jews. But Jesus was standing next to God's throne watching him. He was not sitting down but standing. Standing because He was participating in His child trial, He was not apathetic. Jesus sees you. Rely on Him. He will lead you where He wants to. He has a plan for you. Stay next to Him and hold His hand. In a time of trial we must come closer to God. God will use His own way to support you.
Rely on God's love. God loves you, He tasted a death on a cross for you. Will He abandon you now? No, never. You are precious to God. You are necessary to God. He needs you. Your life will be a testimony of your faith which God will use to save people, including your sons. I will pray for you. GBU.
As for the house; with my mom passed there is a brochure at least every other day along with the increasing online ads "buy home as is"; no doubt there are some reputable establishements where that can be expedited. Also in your situation there is something called a "reverse mortgage" if your home is paid off (Tom Selleck has a promo on that as you may have seen last year).
I would encourage you to look around with silver at 55 dollars an ounce; gold well above 4000 for any old coins or jewelry around.
Even copper is at all time highs.
My friend who used to be in the military but is physically too unhealthy to work anymore also is fairly estranged by family members; who aren't offering any help in his bankruptcy state that he just began to get legal counsel for. Because of this it was nice to help him out with a meal and shopping which I do fairly routinely on his behalf. Make sure to check out places as he does that have food pantries; as often only one is limited. Volunteer opportunities may be there as well.
Not sure where your kids are spiritually; as with my friend I suspect if they are professing believers they aren't living out their faith. Right now they are adults and I suspect if they are His children the Lord will have to chastise them for not concerning themselves about your needs and they need to check verses about those who don't take care of their own and scriptural warnings.
Since you are involved with church I suppose you could inquire about help with any benevolence funds; if you haven't already.
Not sure if another woman who is in your situation may have housing available or rental property that is decent. Finally of course you can rent your property to someone else usually (at least in my township); there is a form to be filled out for a nominal fee to allow you to rent.
Keep being a prayer warrior.
Agape.
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